Hello. It's been a while. I've been really busy lately with work and my etsy shop not to mention a bunch of other things... one of which not having much inspiration to write a blog. But I was struck by inspiration yesterday when there seemed to be a miniature war going on over at my Lolita tips Tumblog.
Basically, I made a Lolita tip about keeping your nails neat and clean even if you aren't one to wear fake nails covered in cakes and ponies. This sparked an argument from one side about how nobody should tell you what to wear and you should just do what you like and that Lolitas need to stop expecting everyone to be perfect. The other side of the argument (my side as well as another Lolita's side) was that it wasn't a matter of being perfect, it's a matter of taking care of yourself so you can be beautiful and healthy.
So here I am, on my soap box, telling you all how I see this whole argument about being "perfect" Lolitas. There seems to be a lot of argument in the Lolita community about how you don't need to listen to the Lolita "rules" and that you should just do what you want. And I agree with this... to an extent. I see the "rules" more like guidelines. If you take away some of the basic rules like wearing a petticoat, only wearing things that are good quality, and modesty, then you take away essentially everything that makes Lolita what it is.
So going along with the rules versus guidelines topic, we come across things like keeping your nails clean and doing your hair and wearing makeup. There seem to be arguments that these things are not important and that everyone should be happy with their natural beauty. And while I do agree that natural beauty is great, I think that some effort should be put into it too. This is how I see it. If you're going to spend $300 on a beautiful dress and accessories, wouldn't you want to put effort into everything else as well? I think it seems silly to spend so much on a dress and not even bother to brush your hair or clean that dirt out under your fingernails. I'm not saying that every Lolita needs to dish out their life savings on tons of makeup and expensive hair care products. What I'm saying is that you need to take care of yourself. Wash your face, comb your hair, put effort into your appearance other than just your clothes.
It's not about being perfect. It's about having respect for yourself and your clothes. It's about complimenting your beautiful clothes and being as beautiful as you can be whether you're fully decked out from head-to-toe in brand and expensive makeup and wigs and fancy deco nails or just happy with putting your hair into braids, powdering your nose, and dressing in your Lolita best. It's about being beautiful in your own way, not perfect in the eyes of everyone else.
So, this was more of a rant than a serious blog post but I thought it would be something to put here until after Otakon when I have a post about that. I apologize again for not posting more often. I'll see you later!