Monday, July 25, 2011

A Post About Being "Perfect"

Hello. It's been a while. I've been really busy lately with work and my etsy shop not to mention a bunch of other things... one of which not having much inspiration to write a blog. But I was struck by inspiration yesterday when there seemed to be a miniature war going on over at my Lolita tips Tumblog.
Basically, I made a Lolita tip about keeping your nails neat and clean even if you aren't one to wear fake nails covered in cakes and ponies. This sparked an argument from one side about how nobody should tell you what to wear and you should just do what you like and that Lolitas need to stop expecting everyone to be perfect. The other side of the argument (my side as well as another Lolita's side) was that it wasn't a matter of being perfect, it's a matter of taking care of yourself so you can be beautiful and healthy.
So here I am, on my soap box, telling you all how I see this whole argument about being "perfect" Lolitas. There seems to be a lot of argument in the Lolita community about how you don't need to listen to the Lolita "rules" and that you should just do what you want. And I agree with this... to an extent. I see the "rules" more like guidelines. If you take away some of the basic rules like wearing a petticoat, only wearing things that are good quality, and modesty, then you take away essentially everything that makes Lolita what it is.
So going along with the rules versus guidelines topic, we come across things like keeping your nails clean and doing your hair and wearing makeup. There seem to be arguments that these things are not important and that everyone should be happy with their natural beauty. And while I do agree that natural beauty is great, I think that some effort should be put into it too. This is how I see it. If you're going to spend $300 on a beautiful dress and accessories, wouldn't you want to put effort into everything else as well? I think it seems silly to spend so much on a dress and not even bother to brush your hair or clean that dirt out under your fingernails. I'm not saying that every Lolita needs to dish out their life savings on tons of makeup and expensive hair care products. What I'm saying is that you need to take care of yourself. Wash your face, comb your hair, put effort into your appearance other than just your clothes.
It's not about being perfect. It's about having respect for yourself and your clothes. It's about complimenting your beautiful clothes and being as beautiful as you can be whether you're fully decked out from head-to-toe in brand and expensive makeup and wigs and fancy deco nails or just happy with putting your hair into braids, powdering your nose, and dressing in your Lolita best. It's about being beautiful in your own way, not perfect in the eyes of everyone else.

So, this was more of a rant than a serious blog post but I thought it would be something to put here until after Otakon when I have a post about that. I apologize again for not posting more often. I'll see you later!

Sunday, June 19, 2011

BABY, The Stars Shine Bright Print Love

I realize I haven't been posting a lot lately, but I bad to make a post when I saw the new set that's coming out from BABY, The Stars Shine Bright.
It's called Unico in Bloomland. That's right. It's a unicorn print. A unicorn print that has officially made BABY my favorite Lolita brand.

Needless to say, this is my new dream dress. I vow that I will have this print in my closet! What are your thoughts on it?

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Lolita Checklist

Oh dear. It's been a while since I've made a post here hasn't it? A month to the day! I'm really sorry about that. I've just been so busy lately with work and school (graduation is coming up though! Yay!) and the new blog that I haven't gotten around to posting here for a while. So I thought it was about time to get back to it.
Today I was thinking about what to post and I thought "What are some things that I think Lolitas should know about?" which turned into "What are some things that I think Lolitas should have?" So I now present you with my list of 25 things that I think every Lolita should have! I would love for you to use this as a checklist and post in the comments how many you have!

1. A favorite perfume or scent you wear with Lolita.
2. A Live Journal account so you can use the EGL Sales Community and keep up-to-date in other Lolita communities.
3. A Tumblr account so you can follow my Lolita Tips blog! (I know, tumblr isn't for everyone. That was really just me advertising. Ha ha. I regret nothing.)
4. A playlist or CD full of music that reminds you of Lolita.
5. A Paypal account to help with buying Lolita online.
6. A collection of cute shirts to wear with Lolita skirts on days that you just want to go Casual Lolita.
7. A favorite place to hang out in Lolita. Whether it's by yourself or for meetups.
8. A really fluffy petticoat.
9. A daily beauty routine.
10. A special occasion beauty routine.
11. Frilly pajamas and cute slippers so you can feel Lolita even when you're going to bed.
12. A favorite Disney princess.
13. A pretty journal for writing down thoughts and notes.
14. Pretty stationary for writing letters.
15. Pretty scented soap.
16. A collection of favorite tutorials, whether they be for hair, makeup, sewing, crafting, or anything else Lolita related.
17. A cute purse that you can use in or out of Lolita.
18. A favorite outfit for every occasion.
19. Something with some sort of deco-den. It can be an ipod covered in rhinestones and cupcakes or a laptop covered in black beads and skulls or a cell phone covered in roses, as long as it's deco-ed!
20. A cute signature pose for photos.
21. An inspiration folder on your computer.
22. A special part of your closet or room sectioned off just for your Lolita things.
23. A collection of pretty picture frames for photos of yourself and friends in Lolita.
24. A favorite Lolita blog.
25. Confidence!

Thursday, April 28, 2011

A Tumblog for Lolita Tips!

I have been wanting to create a blog like this for quite some time but I haven’t gotten around to it until just now. Basically, this blog will be for Lolita tips of all kinds. There will be tips for Lolitas of all styles, ages, colors, sizes, and shapes. There will be tips for beginner Lolitas as well as tips for more experienced Lolitas with a few Lifestyle Lolita tips thrown in here and there as well.


Thursday, April 21, 2011

Convincing Your Parents: One of a Young Lolita's Biggest Challenges

A challenge that many Lolitas face is the challenge of convincing their parents to allow them to wear Lolita. Of course, this isn't much of a problem for older Lolitas, but when you get into Lolita at an early age it can cause quite a few problems. I got into Lolita when I was about twelve or thirteen and from the moment I said the word "Lolita" my mother was completely put off. But I am almost eighteen now and while they aren't exactly thrilled with the idea of me wearing something so strange my parents have grown to accept that I am probably not going to change my mind about wanting to wear it any time soon.
Because of the problems I had trying to convince my parents to let me purchase my first Lolita dress online, I am creating this blog post to help beginner Lolitas get through the process more easily. Starting with the next paragraph, this post will be me talking directly to your parents. So, whether it is you who needs help or a friend, I hope this will help you to at least get an idea of ways to convince your parents that Lolita fashion is not a bad thing! You may not even want to make them read it (there really is a lot) but rather go through yourself and pick out the parts that you think are important to tell your parents about. Here we go!

Dear reader,

Hello! If you are reading this, chances are you are the parent or guardian of someone who is interested in Lolita fashion. I would like to start this off by telling you that Lolita fashion in no way relates to the book or movie "Lolita" or the dictionary definition of the word meaning "a sexually precocious young girl." So why is it called Lolita? Well, in all truthfulness, nobody really knows. Lolita is a Japanese fashion so the name for it originated in Japan. The best explanation is that the person who originally named the fashion got lost in translation and took the word Lolita to mean just a young girl without realizing the sexual connotation associated with the word. Furthermore, I would like to point out that Lolita fashion is in no way associated with any fetishes such as "age play" or French maid fetishes.
Lolitas dress for themselves rather than dressing for someone else. It is not something that someone wears in order to attract men or anyone else. Lolita is not a sexual thing and in fact, is actually based in part around the idea of modesty and elegance. Blouses and dresses are generally high-cut and skirts are around knee length. Many Lolitas even wear old fashioned bloomers under their skirts to help ensure modesty!

Perhaps you are worried that your child will make a fool of themselves by wearing these clothes in public (or if you are like my father, you may even be worried about them making a fool of you.) That is quite understandable. Most parents want their children to be accepted by their peers and to protect them from people who might say mean things about them. But just know this: Your child knows what they are getting into. Most kids go through a stage where they don't care what people say about them (trust me, I'm in that stage right now as a matter of fact) and sometimes they never grow out of it. There are plenty of adults who wear what they like no matter what the public has to say about them. And if your child isn't that type of person, chances are they will just learn from the experience of trying it.
If you are still not convinced, there are other options. There is a sub-style of Lolita which is appropriately called "Casual Lolita" because it is more toned down than most Lolita styles. A casual Lolita outfit generally consists of a Lolita skirt with a less poofy petticoat than usual, a less "frilly" or "outlandish" blouse or nice top, and less accessories than your average Lolita outfit. (For more information on Casual Lolita, follow this link.)

Another point I often hear is that parents don't want their children buying from the internet because they are worried about it being dangerous. As someone who has been purchasing Lolita clothing online for four or five years, I can tell you that I have never had any major problems. The only problems I have had with buying online have been with ebay shops. Some ebay shops are scammers and will just take your money without sending you your item, but this can easily be avoided by checking the seller's ratings and reviews. But in reality, it is sometimes not best to buy Lolita on ebay at all because a lot of the sellers on ebay are not the best quality and sell things that aren't really Lolita, with labels to make people think it might be. It is generally best to stay away from ebay when buying Lolita items.
If you are worried about a specific shop online, the best thing to do is search for reviews from customers who have bought from the shop. (For more tips to ensure safe online purchases, please visit this link.)

One last thing that parents seem to have problems with is that Lolita can be expensive. There are Japanese Lolita brands that charge upwards of $200 for their dresses. But don't worry, this can be avoided! There are offbrand Lolita sites that sell high quality Lolita clothing for much cheaper than the big Japanese brands, so if you don't want your child spending so much on a dress, have them do some research on other Lolita shops.

As a 17-year-old Lolita, I know how hard it is to convince your parents to accept your fashion choices. That is why I created this post on my blog to help beginner Lolitas have an easier time with this. (Believe me, with a father who is a very conservative police officer, I had quite a bit of trouble with this.) I hope this post has been helpful for your understanding of this fashion your child is interested in and I hope I have helped you to make a decision.

Monday, April 18, 2011

A Kuro Lolita Photoshoot

I say "photoshoot" for lack of a better word. Whatever you want to call it, the other day, my friend Amanda wanted to take pictures of me in Lolita. So I let her pick her favorite dress of mine and we went over to our other friend Alexis' house to take pictures. Alexis did my hair and Amanda did my makeup and here are the results!

And now one with the beautiful Alexis, the artist behind my curls!

Sometime soon we plan on doing a Classic Lolita shoot and I'm really looking forward to it. Thanks for looking!

Saturday, April 9, 2011

The Day You Really Are a Princess

That's right. This entry is dedicated to Lolita weddings! I made a post like this quite a while ago, but this one is going to go more in depth.
Personally, I would love to have a Gothic Lolita wedding with a Victorian touch. So maybe you would call it a cross between Gothic and Classic Lolita? But I would also like to have some Sweet Lolita touches in there as well. I suppose it will be fairly eclectic. So let's get started on some options.

The Venue
How could you possibly have a wedding without a place to have it at? There are so many different places you could have your wedding, so why pick something boring? In a perfect world, I would be married in Versailles but I somehow don't see that happening.

My next option is a garden. A big garden full of beautiful, well manicured flowers would be amazing. (But not so much if someone has allergies!) I would also love to get married at a cute little church out in the country somewhere (although that makes me think of Rocky Horror Picture Show). Or perhaps for a more Gothic feel, a full blown cathedral complete with gargoyles! I have actually heard of some people getting married in cemeteries. Not my thing, but if you like it go for it! It would be even better if you had family members buried in the cemetery so you really have a connection to it.

The Invitations
Another very important part of your wedding is the invitations. If you don't invite people nobody will be able to bring you presents, er, I mean, share your special day with you. It's best to have your invitations match your theme. I have always loved the look of the invitations from Royal Steamline, a shop that specializes in Gothic, Vintage, and Steampunk style invitations and save-the-dates. There are also a lot of great invitations for any style and theme that can be found on Etsy.

The Cake
It's no lie (get it? Get it? I made a funny.)that the cake is something that a lot of people really look forward to at weddings, so you want your cake to be amazing! I personally think that you should pick whatever flavors you like best. It's your day and you shouldn't have to worry that much about pleasing the guests. If they don't like the flavor, you can make up for it by making it aesthetically pleasing. Here are some of my favorite wedding cakes that I've seen.

And I have to admit, it may not be Lolita, but I think I might actually want this cake at my wedding. (Or at least the amazing toppers.)

The Bridesmaids
While you are supposed to be the most beautiful girl at your wedding, you want your bridesmaids to be beautiful too (whether they like it or not!) Of course the most Lolita thing to do would be to have all of your bridesmaids wear Lolita. If they are already Lolitas you could let them pick their favorite dresses and if they aren't Lolitas you could have them choose a Lolita dress they like from an online shop and order it. Or you could have them all wearing the same dress. I personally like the idea of my bridesmaids wearing EGA though. Here are the dresses I had in mind:

And you can't forget the flower girl! Catherine Cottage has some adorable flower girl dresses as well as Lolita style dresses for little girls!

The Groom
Of course, this depends on your preferences as well as the preferences of your groom, but I think it would be fun to have him dress for the theme! I would love for my groom to wear EGA, especially with a top hat! But I suppose if he just wants to wear a plain old tux that's fine too (as long as he wears a bowtie!)
Your Dress!
Now for the really fun part! Picking out your dress! You could choose to wear any Lolita dress, or you could go for a more traditional route with a full length dress. Here are just a few of my favorite examples, some more traditional than others.

In a perfect world I would be married in Versailles, wearing an exact replica of the wedding dress from the Marie Antoinette movie.

I would also love to be married in a replica of Mrs. Lovett's wedding dress from Sweeney Todd.

But something tells me that I'm not going to get married any time soon, so I guess I have a lot of time to think about it.
I hope you have all enjoyed this and for those of you who might be planning to get married I wish you luck! For more Lolita wedding ideas I would suggest taking a look at volume 5 of the English Gothic and Lolita Bible. Since it is out of print it may be hard to find, but I think it is worth it.